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Welcome to the Tricky Twenties Community 💛

Your twenties are a rollercoaster—filled with highs, lows, and a whole lot of what am I even doing? But here’s the thing: you’re not alone. This is a space for real stories, honest conversations, and unfiltered experiences about navigating life in your twenties.

Whether you’re figuring out your career, dealing with an identity crisis, struggling with mental health, or just trying to make sense of adulthood—your voice matters here. Share your journey, your lessons, your struggles, and your wins (big or small). Because sometimes, the best thing we can do is remind each other that we’re all just trying to figure it out.

So, what’s your story? 💬✨

stories

Stuck, lost and questioning everything

If someone had told me a few years ago that I’d be in my mid-twenties, completely uninterested in the degree I spent years working toward, I probably would have laughed. Or cried. Probably both. I used to think I had it all figured out. I picked my field at 18, convinced it was the right path. Back then, it made sense. But now? I sit through lectures, scroll through job listings, and feel… nothing. No spark, no excitement. Just the heavy realization that I don’t actually want to do this for the rest of my life. The problem is, I have no clue what I do want to do instead. Everyone around me seems to be moving forward, starting their careers, getting promotions, finding their passions. Meanwhile, I’m stuck in this weird limbo, torn between finishing something I don’t love and jumping into the unknown with zero direction. I’ve tried everything: career quizzes, journaling, even asking my friends what they think I’d be good at (which, by the way, is a dangerous game because now I apparently give great therapist vibes?). Nothing has given me that aha moment I’m desperate for. Sometimes I feel like a failure, but I’m trying to remind myself that it’s okay to not have everything figured out. It’s all about being kind and patient with yourself I guess.

Is it normal to feel behind?

Does anyone else also have this feeling of lagging behind? I’m in my mid-twenties, but still live with my parents, have tried about three different study programs only to quit all of them after less than a year of trying. None of it seems interesting to me: the sitting around in lecture halls for three to four years, the living together with roommates that leave the kitchen like an enormous mess, and let’s not even get into the bathroom.. None of it is appealing to me, but I also have the feeling that I’m missing out. I never really experienced the “student life”, never really lived on my own. When I hear stories of my friends about how great coliving is and how much fun they experience, I feel a bit.. jealous? And yes, they tell me all the time that I am just doing things on my own pace and that at least I don’t have to deal with a large sum of student debt, but still. Sometimes it can feel pretty lonely and overwhelming, to not know what I want whilst everyone else is out there living their busy lives.

Learning to own my worth

For as long as I can remember, I was the girl who blended into the background. I avoided eye contact, second-guessed everything I said, and felt like everyone around me was just better at life. In my early twenties, it got worse. At work, I felt like an imposter. On social media, I saw people my age thriving while I overanalyzed every tiny decision. But then, over coffee one day, my best friend admitted she felt the same way. It hit me: we’re all just figuring things out. That realization changed everything. I started making small shifts like speaking up in meetings, setting tiny challenges, and reminding myself that confidence isn’t about never doubting yourself, but moving forward despite the doubt. Some days, I still struggle, but I’ve learned to trust that I deserve to take up space. I live by the quote: “I am more capable than I think” and it really helps me. To the introverts or shy ones, we got this!

A hack to get out of bed easier

I’ve never been a morning person. No matter how many times I promised myself I’d wake up early for a peaceful start to the day, I am too much of a snoozer to actually do so. Then, one day, a friend stayed over, and I noticed that when her alarm went off, she just got up without hesitation. She told me her secret: she always kept her phone across the room. Curious, I decided to give it a try. The next morning, I placed my phone out of reach, and when my alarm rang, I had no choice but to get up and turn it off. Once I was up, it was easier to stay up, and I didn’t fall back into bed. Within a week, mornings were no longer a struggle. That one small change helped break my snooze cycle, and I felt more energized throughout the day. If you find yourself constantly fighting your alarm, try putting your phone across the room. It might just be the game-changer you need for better mornings. Hope this helps you as it did for me!

What helped me save money

Up until a few years ago I had no clue how to deal with money. I was the type of person who lived in the moment, which is great for a lot of things, but maybe not for saving. It wasn’t until I started tracking my finances that I realized I had a habit of spending nearly everything I earned, leaving little room for saving. I began breaking down my expenses into categories like rent, groceries, eating out, and beauty & care, which helped me see where I could cut costs. As a foodie, I noticed I was spending a lot on eating out, so I set a monthly budget specifically for that. I also added “savings” as a category to make sure that not all my income was going right back out. Now, with a clear overview of my spending and a designated savings plan, I’m finally feeling more in control of my finances, and it’s such a relief knowing I’m building a financial cushion for the future.